I started teacher-training for my PGCE in 2003, when I was fresh-faced, idealistic, and ready to contend with any of the trials that the classroom may throw at me. What followed, in the first few years of my teaching career, were some of the most difficult lessons I have ever learned.
When it comes being successful and confident as a teacher, nothing beats time and experience. You’ll make a lot of mistakes as you go along – I know I did – and that’s why I have decided to share some of the most important lessons I learned in those thirteen years.
ONE – Never get angry (or at least learn to hide it well). This takes practise – but students have a sixth sense for weakness and anger is weakness. You know when you were a pupil and you behaved perfectly for certain teachers because they were so terrifying? They were actually beacons of calm and tranquillity. There’s a big difference between acting like the stern and incensed authoritarian of your worst nightmares and actually losing control. Losing control in the classroom is disastrous. I think this was the hardest lesson I learned. It certainly took the longest to master.
TWO – You are not your students’ friend. Everyone wants to be liked. In those early days it’s easy to slip into the habit of trying a bit too hard to win classes over. Sharing details of your personal life, being too informal, trying to make them laugh more often than you are actually encouraging learning – these are all very dangerous and can be a slippery slope. You are not equals in the relationship and giving over some of your authority in order to flatter your ego will only lead to tears.
THREE – Like your students. This may seem like it’s a contradiction but there is a key difference between showing interest and admiration for a pupil within the confines of a student-teacher relationship, and stepping outside those limits. Children like to be liked as much as you do – if you show disdain for them you will never win them over. Smile as they come into the classroom. Know their names by the second lesson. When it’s appropriate and you have time, show an interest in them as people.
This has to be appropriate – you don’t want details of who fancies whom, or whose parent grounded them for drinking vodka in the park last weekend – but show that you became a teacher because you actually enjoy getting to know young people and you care about their interests.
Of course, there will always usually be at least one pupil per class that you genuinely find it hard to like. Another hard lesson is seeing through those hard exteriors to the frightened children underneath; quite often, those are the pupils who will respond best to your kindness and understanding – if you can get through to them. Try your best to let go of that loathing and you will feel better for it…
FOUR – Never go back on your word. If you said you were going to keep them in for ten minutes at break, keep them. If you said you would phone home – phone. If you promised a breakfast revision session with food – make sure you do it. Pupils need you to believe in your word, every time. Not only does going back on your word weaken any respect they may have for you, in reality some of those pupils will not have that certainty or security at home either. You need to be their rock. This is tough – very tough – but, just like with parenting, consistency and certainty reap rewards if you put the hard graft in at the beginning.
FIVE – A little praise goes a long way. It’s easy to forget to do it – you are so caught up in the day-to-day business of planning and marking and lessons – but praising pupils is so important. Not only this, it can often be the most effective tool in your classroom management arsenal. I have phoned home to tell the parents of a difficult pupil that they have done something wonderful in my class and it did more good than ten detentions, sendings-out, or exclusions. They behaved for a full week afterwards and the genuine joy on their face when they tell you how happy their parents were to ‘get a nice phone call’ for a change is heart-warming.
Don’t forget to reward the middle ground pupils too though – the high-flyers and tricky students are often the ones that get the most praise but it is the most powerful motivational tool you have for all pupils – from the odd word at the end of the lesson, to praise points and phones calls. Use all the praise you have and use it as often as you genuinely can.
SIX – Don’t be afraid to admit you were wrong. This is another one which may seem to contradict earlier advice. However, I don’t mean u-turning on detentions or deciding it is alright to only write three sentences for an essay after all. I mean if you get something wrong – genuinely wrong – then simply state the correct information and move on. Do it quickly and clearly – without reluctance or embarrassment – and your students will learn to respect it and accept it without drama or comment.
SEVEN – When dealing with parents, try your best to remember that the young person you are discussing is the centre of that parent’s universe. This is slightly harder to grasp if you don’t yet have children yourself; I didn’t truly get it until after I had mine. If you are finding it hard to put yourself in that position then imagine the person you love and admire most in the world. Then imagine someone you have just met, or someone who is just an acquaintance, beginning a conversation by saying that person, the one you admire so much, has had “a pretty disappointing year” and “really hasn’t displayed the right attitude.” Of course, you can’t lie. If that student is under-performing, you have to get the information across. But you can break that in a way that doesn’t make the parent instantly bristle. Start with something positive – something that shows you know their child, you’ve taken the time to understand them, and you have their best interests at heart.
And that’s it – those are the nuggets of wisdom I wish I had known when I started. It may seem like they are a little easier said than done to begin with, and they should by no means be taken as the only route to success – but hopefully they have given you some tips to start you on your way to being the teacher you want to be. Good luck.
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