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Four pictures of me: As a small child, a young adult, a new mother and on my 40th birthday.

Forgiveness and Permission: Why seek an adult autism diagnosis?

26th April 2022

One of the first things anyone asks when I reveal that I received an autism diagnosis at age 37 is “What’s the point of getting

Picture of a brain with two sides. One with rainbow colours, the otherwith written equations

How to lose friends and annoy people as an autistic adult

14th March 2022

As an autistic adult who was not diagnosed until she was thirty-seven, it is so often the subtle differences in communication, processing and assumptions that

Cose up of a woman's eyes with jewels around them

The Bad Listener

5th August 2020

It’s official – I’m a bad listener. In the white-hot energy of an introductory conversation, I will not ask you questions. I won’t inquire about

Mother and children in bed covered in red blanket

An Ode to Anxiety

10th March 2020

I am anxious. I’m anxious about the virus. I’m anxious about medical tests and the fact that I have not had any work this month.

boy in a red coat by a river - feature image I won't make him cope

I won’t force him to ‘learn to cope’.

10th February 2020

There is an expectation, an implication, a pressure when you are the parent of an autistic child. Sometimes that pressure is very clear – when

Boy beding over a large pit full of coloured lego

I have not left you crying

7th January 2020

I have not left you crying in a very, very long time, gorgeous boy. This morning I did. I left your classroom as tears were

Boy in black clothes on a red bridge in a garden

Luck, Change and Uncertainty

11th November 2019

I may not be as vocal as you, gorgeous boy, but uncertainty scares me just as much as it scares you. When you started school,

Homemade sign at environmental rally. A cardboard sign is seen close up, saying stand up and change the world, as eco-activists march for the environment on a street in Montreal, Canada

Greta Thunberg shows us that Autism Awareness is Dead.

25th September 2019

This is not a post about climate change. This is not a post about the ecological nightmare that our planet is facing. It probably should

Boy lying on grass in front of castle ruins

A Melatonin Muddle

5th September 2019

We are luckier than many, when it comes to sleep. After a rocky start, like most babies, my boy started sleeping through the night at

The last day: a letter to my daughter as she prepares for school.

17th July 2019

Today is an ending. It is the final day of pre-school you and me, snuggled on the sofa. Today, little bean, is the last day

Two women sitting in a pscychologist's office. Only their hands are visible for female autism diagnosis

Getting an Adult Autism Diagnosis in the UK – My Experience

11th June 2019

I first began to suspect I might be autistic about a year after my son was diagnosed. I have always had a tendency to obsess

Boy stading by lake throwing a bucket of water

I Cannot Lie

22nd May 2019

Little boy, I cannot lie to you. I know the status that truth holds, in your beautiful and remarkable mind. It is the greatest imperative,